I don't drink and want a girlfriend

[420 Posse]

I found myself in a hole drinking at least 12 drinks a day. I have managed to quit thanks to going to Alcoholics anonymous and prayer to my higher power. I'm back to just a stoner...thank God. Alcohol was starting to kill me.

In the society I live in, people "go out" to bars to meet other people. I have no desire to sit in a bar and watch others make a fool of themselves drinking. Plus being only 1 week sober, there is the ever present temptation for that one drink right in front of me.

My dog and I get along just fine but I'm only human. Having some cute girlfriends would be nice.

I wonder what a sober date would be like without drinking?

I appreciate any wisdom my fellow stoners can give me. Serious responses please. And no this is not Yummybud and I don't own a piece of shit broke down Porche. LOL

 

[good drown]

i think you best shot is to meet a girl through somebody you know. that will eliminate the "crazy" girls, somewhat. its going to be hard for you not to fall back into the trap. maybe you can meet a nice girl at AA that way you will not have that temptation around. take your dog to a dog park. basically, if you have a hobby that females enjoy, pursue it. you dont want to get a bar chic, you want to find someone that had fun doing other things beside drinking.

good luck

 

[el dub]

Bars aren't prolly the best place for you to meet womens at this point, mon. Even if you are strong and don't drink, there's a good chance any women you meet in those type of establishments will be drinkers. (Go figure.)

Get a membership to a health club or start taking the dog for walks at public dog parks. I'm guessing a woman with a leash in hand might be better for you than those holding cocktails.

Good luck.

lw

 

[KharmaGirl]

AA.........You're not supposed to be looking for a relationship right now A week? Work on yourself first....the rest will follow in it's time.

Btw....I've never met any of my b/f's in bars...and I've never gone somewhere to drink on a date...think hobbies, friends...groups...

 

[yortbogey]

AA.........You're not supposed to be looking for a relationship right now A week? Work on yourself first....the rest will follow in it's time.

Btw....I've never met any of my b/f's in bars...and I've never gone somewhere to drink on a date...think hobbies, friends...groups...

truth be told.......the more U look the more it runz away......
when U least expect "IT".......she will walk up and sit in U'r lap.....
walk dont' run.............

 

[Abja Roots]

I always recommend people go back to school. Take a class that interests you. If you meet someone cool great, if not at least you learned about something you like. Not much to learn at bars.

I just got back from a bit of a weekend with a friend of mine. I didn't partake but it bored the shit out of me to get nothing out of the night, watching people act the fool and poison their bodies. Following them around, while they lowered their inhibitions so they could be comfortable and/or looking for girls whose standards had been lowered and judgment reduced to nil. It was cool when I was 15 and 16 but some of us grew up. It's like watching the same movie over and over.

Gym, school. volunteer, beekeeping society, astronomy. Anything you like.

Best of Luck

 

[Apicalmeristem]

Im with Good drown go out to the dog park on a sunny day. Tons of cutie girls and you have a excuse to talk to them.

 

[ocean_grown]

Start a Highble Study.

 

[Yes4Prop215]

I always recommend people go back to school. Take a class that interests you. If you meet someone cool great, if not at least you learned about something you like. Not much to learn at bars.

I just got back from a bit of a weekend with a friend of mine. I didn't partake but it bored the shit out of me to get nothing out of the night, watching people act the fool and poison their bodies. Following them around, while they lowered their inhibitions so they could be comfortable and/or looking for girls whose standards had been lowered and judgment reduced to nil. It was cool when I was 15 and 16 but some of us grew up. It's like watching the same movie over and over.

Gym, school. volunteer, beekeeping society, astronomy. Anything you like.

Best of Luck

i hear that man. i went to a friends birthday party at a bar last week. kind of surprised myself how much it bored me. we used to try to sneak iinto bars all the time...now they have no appeal.

the thing i hate about bars is having to yell into homies ear just to hear eachother. and most of the girls are sloppy drunk and just hopping from one dude to the next...nothing about those druken whores is appealing to me anymore. id rather have a classy girl who doesnt need to get wasted and can just have a nice dinner and conversation and then unsloppy undrunk sex...

 

[Abja Roots]

the thing i hate about bars is having to yell into homies ear just to hear eachother. and most of the girls are sloppy drunk and just hopping from one dude to the next

This is only good if you have nothing of value to say. That's why it suits most of these people. Or if you're so uncomfortable in your own skin, you can't talk to a stranger without being faded.

As for the girls being sloppy drunken whores. I hear it man. My friend was surprised my girl and I had never gotten drunk and had sex. He said it like we were missing out. Then comes his girl asking if I have a girlfriend. I said "Yes" she says too bad I have a friend who is a real slut. You would definitely get laid. I didn't really say anything. Just that I was good. And I am. Off of all of that.

 

[Snype]

It'll come to you when you're not looking for it. Find some type of hobby that interests you and happens to have girls there. Usually if you go looking for it, you only find drama.

 

[3dDream]

meetup.com - site for hobbies and interests
plentyoffish.com - free dating
okcupid.com - free dating

Some of the hottest woman I know do not drink.... there are lots of reformed party girls out there.

 

[MagdaAndBernie]

Grocery store is great place to meet - grab a cart, have a list, and don't be afraid to ask a honey for some help with ingredients, choices, etc.

 

[krunchbubble]

Grocery store is great place to meet - grab a cart, have a list, and don't be afraid to ask a honey for some help with ingredients, choices, etc.

this is a great way, i have pulled many women from the grocery store......especially in the Starbucks line.....

 

[Stoner4Life]

craigslist, everything from platonic to pay to play incl '420 friendly' dating.......

 

[smokefrogg]

never was into bars myself, i've been with the same girl for a long time, we're happily married now....but!

man, i used to go to a lot of raves. yeah you'd find a lot of folks on psychedelics, but man those desert and forest raves would have lovely hippy-ish girls! almost all would be down for herbs man, there would be some drinking but not at all like a bar or club type of scene in any way

just dancin' and gettin' a bit lifted, puffin' jays bouncin' and dancin' around

ran into so many awesome girls that way, also ran into some that imho are a bit too "carefree" (easy) imho, not really turned on by that

bike riding too...where i live there are huge group bike rides throughout the city! man there are so many beautiful and in decent shape girls pedaling around, just blows my mind, most are super fun and chill and will be down for a lil herb too

 

[Yes4Prop215]

haha yea dont underestimate the internet. im not a big fan of those social networking sites but i have met and eventually poked girls from them. even got some little weed grower girl on my jock on flickr lol.


i have never met any good girls at bars. every bar hookup i had i ended up regretting because i was drunk and had beer goggles.

 

[GrassRoots]

I agree with the school comment as long as your not too old to be hitting on chicks in the 18-22 range. You don't want to be the creep either. If you have a girl in class that you want to get to know further and are having trouble approaching, just wait for a test to be announced and see if she wants to meet at the library to study, or even just an assignment that you can compare and discuss answers on. And I agree with everyone else who says just go pick up some hobbies, you'll meet chicks with a similar hobby which makes it easy to start a conversation (about said hobby) and then you can just take it from there.

 

[Haps]

Stay off the booze, it is worth the effort. I been dry for over 8 years, and it killed me, literally. AA is a good help for a few months till you stabilize. Heal, grow, learn, then love will come..........and fuck your ass back up.
H

 

[robbiedublu]

Im with Good drown go out to the dog park on a sunny day. Tons of cutie girls and you have a excuse to talk to them.

This is a better idea than you might realize. My wife and I have a cute little dog and whenever I take him anywhere women always come up and want to pet him. I frequently wish I had gotten a cute little dog when I was single.