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Where I have been..... important!

MynameStitch

Dr. Doolittle
Mentor
Veteran
Hello everyone, Thank you to all of you who have wondered where I have been all this time, it's good to know you got peeps looking out for you <3

However, I am going to make sure from now on I spend at least one hour a day answering questions and so forth everyday.
I used to spend more time here, but things have turned bad...
I am sorry I have not been around much lately, things in my family have been completely up rooted and upside down.

My dad, who in my life time have not had the best relationship with him, because his dad and mom just pretty much dumped him when he was a child and he too had no relationship with his dad or mom. it's just like a chain effect.... I have always loved my dad and will always no matter what, but recently my dad has had severe health problems.

First he had prostate troubles which in turn was on 4 different meds which did not work and then after 4 months of meds finally found out it was an infection....

He has severe emphysema now and can't walk too far, been a life time smoker which he just now quit.... he has had a stint put in his artery, and now he may have cancer of his esphogus.... all this happened at once, he found this out nearly all at once.

I am pissed at the hospitals, because they found a lump in my dad's lung tissue back in april of 2009 and it measured 8mm, they said nothing to my dad until when he went in for breathing trouble that the thing nearly doubled in size 1.5cm now, he had 4 xrays before they told him anything and every Dr. told him nothing!

I have been by my dad's side taking care of him because he can barely take care of himself anymore.. and what is sad is this is the most time I have ever spent with him, because he took no interest in spending time with me when I was younger.....
All my time has been taking care of my dad and to make matters worse my mom is having severe problems with her lungs, both life long smokers..... it's terrible I have to live through this with both parents, because I know my mom is the next, she is on breathing treatments and Nebuliser and all sorts of other meds for COPD. I watched my neighbor die of lung cancer sorta recently... he too was a life long smoker.
My dad has been a smoker for 52 years and my mother around 47 years..She is on anti biotics constantly and amoxicillin does not even work anymore and now she has to take the more risker ones that cause tendon damage..... This has been like this for the past 4 years and she still refuses to quit, but says she is going to soon, but never comes....
I also found out that my dad needs heart surgery and he may not even be able to live through the surgery, because of his lungs.

I have been through a lot lately and my head has not been very clear and I am under a lot of stress watching my parents suffer and yet I am very furious that the tobacco companies get away with this shit while pot smokers/growers get slammed to the wall when it never harms a hair on anyone's head.

I am also in the middle of making updates for the sick plants guide, long overdue! lol

I really try to keep a bright outlook on this that everything may be alright, but it's very hard when everyone around you is sick with lung problems that could have been avoided.

To anyone who smokes, please quit, it's terrible to put your kids/family through this; because they are the one who suffer too, because they have to watch you slowly get sick or die with something that was completely preventable.

I knew this day would come that I would have to take care of my parents with lung problems.
I suffer from lung problems too, because my mom,dad,brother and sister all smoked around me for nearly 14 years and I am the only one who came out not smoking. I went and added up all the cigarettes I may have inhaled from being around this and each smoker was near a pack a day and I added up over 30,000 cig's. As I got older my lungs went to shit, I had to stop playing sports and give up high school hockey and I watched as new smokers skated circles around me, because I could not catch my breath and no amount of medication changed it.


So please for those smokers, don't smoke around children if you choose to smoke, and please think of the long term effects your going to have on your family and hardships they may have to go through with medical bills and emotional trauma.
 

John Deere

Active member
Veteran
I'm dealing with a bunch of parent health issues, too, and it thoroughly sucks. My thoughts are with you.
 

sackoweed

I took anger management already!!!! FUCK!!!
Veteran
sTitch
Howzit gurl..?? Hope life throws some good things yer way, Keep yer faith whatever it may be and stay strong, I am sorry all this has been unloaded upon you, but we always have series of tests throughout life. So keep yer chin up stay focused and keep on keeping on.. I am sending the bestest vibes yer way for all to get better soon or easier i should say.. God bless and keep strong.. peace n pufs.

sackO
 

IC BUDZ

Member
sorry to hear all the bad news, My dad just found out he has hepititas C so the doctors put him on a bunch of meds one is xanax and it completly messes with him when i was about 4 my dad went to prison for a DUI and hasnt drank once seens then last march i went to my house for a family party and my dad was acting drunk and all messed up all my mom had to say was it was from his meds about an hour later i went out on the back porch and found my da laying on the ground at the bottom of the stairs he had tripped down so i brought him to the hospital and he got 10 stiches on his eyebrow. IT really sucks seeing your family age because of this i will never have children because i dont want to put them through any of this. and the world is already over populated anyway
 

kp^

Member
WB <3..... Stay strong!:tiphat:

Appreciate all you do here MynameStitch. Lov the garden saver book aswell!:smokeit:
 

Payaso

Original Editor of ICMagazine
Veteran
Stay calm we are all in the same boat. Lets do the right thing for our parents... and encourage the government help out with the epidemic of ALZ and other health issues oldsters face daily.

Stay safe and welcome home to ICMag...
 

SmilinBob

Member
Stay strong. Sucks to hear that this happens, but it does. My neighbor is going through serious shit just as you're describing. She doesn't listen to anything anyone has to say when it comes to her health.

Anyway, enough about me(her?), hope everything get better. I'll say a little prayer for you.
 
S

sparkjumper

Hi stich SKELETOR here and I was wondering what did happen to you.Since my dad died a few years ago I've been taking care of mama,her house is only a mile away.She's a lifelong smoker too and quit for about 10 months but let a bit of mental stress get her smoking again.They arent kidding when they say its as hard to quit as heroin I havent had any luck but never really tried I guess.Too many other demons in my closet she is full lol.I sure wish my mom would give it up though because everyone suffers over the shit.Hell my mom smoked when she was pregnant with me but back then it was acceptable if you can believe that.Anyway kiddo try not to stress to much and dont feel obligated around here.It is nice to hear your ass isn't in jail though!
 

barth

Active member
I feel for you bro. I am in the same boat with my Grandmother.

My Grandmother lives with me and has an advanced case of COPD and can hardly walk to the bathroom without being winded. She does nebulizer every 3 hours and also an inhaler as needed. On top of that it is on 24/7 oxygen. She Still smokes a pack a day.

Smelling smoke coming from her private bathroom both makes me sick and resent the fact that i have put my life on hold and sacrificed alot to take care of her. Some times it seems like all she cares about is the the cigs and making sure she has them. She will lie, cheat, steal and manipulate to have them. She used to be the sweetest woman now all she cares about is the cigs. It is truly pathetic.

My Grandmother will be the 4th close relative that i have lost to lung cancer, lung disease or copd. I lost my Father, my grandfather, and my wifes father to lung cancer. All of them suffered a great deal.

I was a smoker and have been smoke free for a year, i will never smoke another cigarette.

Stay strong you will get through this. Keep your head up.
 
Sorry to hear about your current tribulations, I too have not had the best relationship with my dad, but I love him. You being there for him means a lot to him, he may not tell you this, but it does. trust me.
 

someotherguy

Active member
Veteran
so sorry to hear about your troubles and you can be
sure there will be many praying for you and your
folks from this day forward.

forgetting how much you have helped so many here,
maybe now we can help you bear the burdens you
now carry. thank you for letting us share your pain.

lots of love and good karma comin' your way,
SOG

btw, thank you for all the work you put into your book,
it has been a real life saver in my garden.
 

ft100

Active member
ICMag Donor
Veteran
stitchy my old friend I am sorry to hear of all this. I will send some positive vibes your way in as many ways that I can. glad to have you back. and girl you need to get a grow up of some of that good funk. anyways you know I love ya. keep your family as close to you as you can and take care of them. nothing but love. peace and smoke.
 
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