The Bad Girls Club!!!!

[Marywanna]

....My Single Biggest Issue has been finding The Right Woman that doesn't have some Big Fucking Problem with My Business in one area or another.
<< Insert Big Sigh here >>
I'll admit,I'm particularly superficial in one area:
I'm only initially attracted to physically beautiful women.
That,and (no offense to any of you struggling with weight issues!) I'm not into (even slightly) overweight women.
I can own it-I have specific tastes and I'm not willing to settle,though (some) compromises are always an option. (Duh,right?)
Anyhow,just thought I'd comment right in The Middle of y'all's self-proclaimed "bitch-fest".


Hugs,Alla' Ya's!

REZREZREZ. Now why did you stir the pot? Are you movie star handsome,baby? MW

 

[ka0tik_kreati0n]

hey I've got more cushion for the pushin
LOL
IW loves every inch of me... of course *I* have a problem with being slightly overweight. I'm not obese.. but I feel for every big woman out there.. cause big women need love too
ke ke ke ke ke

 

[xinsanewickedx]

your not overweight angel i think you are perfect and thats that!!!!!!

you are missing out rez

 

[ka0tik_kreati0n]

Lol I would say I'm "thick"... but don't you love smackin my ass!!!! bwahahahaahah
and you are perfect too IW... even with your wittle belly hehehehehehe

 

[Marywanna]

YEE HAW,RIDE THAT BITCH,IW!!!:yay:

 

[xinsanewickedx]

lol thanks angel.

how is your friday looking mw?

 

[Cheerful]

.....I have lost faith in ever being worthy of a special day. .... Now I hate B.D. time and most other holidays because I still ( like an idiot ) believe that he will magically decide that I am worth it and there will be something sparkly wrapped waiting for me. I will be 50 this August and not only am I hating the number itself but I am dreading my actual B.D. as no one gives a SHIT! and I deserve some respect for this milestone don't you think?

Bunny...I totally understand your feelings. I can relate to your frustration building up year after year because the people you have poured your heart and soul into, refuse to acknowledge and appreciate you.

I'd like you to consider a little shift in your thinking. First of all, you ARE worthy of a special day. Period. That never was in question.

Whether or not any other person chooses to demonstrate agreement/acknowledgement of that, is totally about That person, It's not about you.

I know....It sure *Feels* like it's about you!!! It Hurts! Because you Deserve it and you're not getting it...from any of the external sources that you'd like it from. But part of the pain comes from hanging on to the expectation/hope that it could have turned out any different.

You can't control the external sources. They control themselves. You only control you. Only You get to decide whether or not to continue believing that you can't feel special on your birthday unless the external sources behave in a certain fashion.

Another thought: Many/most of us have had enjoyable experiences Being the Gift-Giver. It can be a whole lot of fun and anticipation and not always expensive. In a way I feel sorry for the people who do not allow themselves this pleasure... for whatever reason.... self-esteem issues perhaps?

And regarding "something sparkly wrapped waiting for me"...oh how I can relate to THAT unfulfilled vision! Consider this: just as I talked about those old TV shows in a previous post...think about the commercials!!!!! "When you CARE enough to Give the Very Best".....and on and on. Showing us vignettes of the handsome well groomed man gently handing the sweet looking woman a beautifully wrapped gift.

The point is, these images are being put out there by companies who stand to make big bux by Selling Stuff. That is their only motivation...to create a need for their product so you will buy their products and make them rich.

After years of indoctrination thru TV, magazines etc. we have learned to expect our own lives to look like the pictures, and then when we are alone with our own thoughts, we get down on ourselves for not having a life that looks like the pictures that were drilled into us. Again...giving the external sources power over your life and self-worth.

I offer this in closing...(*Ed McMahon says to Carmac the Magnificent "I hold in my hands the LAST envelope!*)(wild applause)... I once actually GOT the "something sparkly wrapped waiting for me" (or as close as I expect to ever get). and Sometimes, It's not all it's cracked up to be!!!

TO-WIT: My last S.O.: we lived together (the 1st time) & had a biz together for several years. We both put all we had into the biz, but it was his skills and my money. Gave him one of my credit cards to hold onto in case of emergency. All credit is in my name only. Out Of The BLUE he gives me a Sparkly "engagement" ring...we both always felt "if it ain't broke don't fix it" so there was no interest in actually marrying. So really it was a "spoken-for" ring, that I didn't ask for, woo hoo. (AND, I already had TONS of jewelry, we both agreed I had more than enuf!!!) Then I got MY Credit Card bill. What. The. FFFFF*ck!!!! There's the ring, over $500. We went out of business and all those (MY) credit cards went to collection. Eventually, each time I would look at the ring, all I see is my credit score being dragged down to the bottom of the ocean. I moved out (the 1st time, which was a few months before my 50th B.D.!), and when I started selling my belongings to raise cash, I sold it and bought a few groceries. THE END

 

[Hammerhead]

KK IW GET A ROOM LOL

 

[ka0tik_kreati0n]

lmao HH

 

[LolaGal]

....My Single Biggest Issue has been finding The Right Woman that doesn't have some Big Fucking Problem with My Business in one area or another.
<< Insert Big Sigh here >>
I'll admit,I'm particularly superficial in one area:
I'm only initially attracted to physically beautiful women.
That,and (no offense to any of you struggling with weight issues!) I'm not into (even slightly) overweight women.
I can own it-I have specific tastes and I'm not willing to settle,though (some) compromises are always an option. (Duh,right?)
Anyhow,just thought I'd comment right in The Middle of y'all's self-proclaimed "bitch-fest".



Hugs,Alla' Ya's!

Well Rez darlin, I am the woman for you then.

I have no problem with your job, in fact I would like it... lol.

Now as to attractive. I have the body of Halle Berry in Catwoman and am drop dead gorgeous...

when is the wedding?

 

[Marywanna]

Lola,you might be too much woman for Rez and I don't mean size wise. Hey is there any more room in Kurt Russells closet?? OOH he is a fine hunk of man....even if he did shoot Old Yeller.

 

[LolaGal]

heehee, I just can't share ole Kurt.... he is mine, mine, mine... lol.

As for me being too much woman for Rez, No WAy! lol. The love of a good woman like me is just what he needs... heeheehee...

Anybody break any laws lately? anybody been BAD?

 

[Marywanna]

I ate suckers made with hash.......I don't know if i was bad because I didn't give a shit!

 

[Cheerful]

I drove while stoned to buy groceries...me & my car are back home without incident...but my wallet suffered severely...I tried to apologize to it but it said that my penance must be to eat a buncha junk food that I bought until I

 

[Hammerhead]

all of you ladies are well worth the extra special time the needs to be invested in any relationship. If your man is not up to the task there are plenty of us out here that will be glad to. If he is willing to lose you he's not worth keeping imo.

 

[Hammerhead]

dp

 

[Marywanna]

Does Dozer come with ya?

 

[Hammerhead]

of course he does lol

 

[bunnydrawers]

Cheerful, thanks for the post it helped me (a little) however I will try and take your advice and I AM SPECIAL (looks good typed out) and this B.D. will not let him get me down. I am already being told that we do not have money for gifts and my B.D. is not till Aug. this has been my story for 20 yrs. Maybe I will take charge of the gift giving this year huh? he is actually watching me type this as we speak and could give a shit. Brave little FUCKER is he not? My grandson's B.D. is July 4th. this Sat. is his party and I have been stressing out about it because my hubby is telling me we have no money for his gift now as well. Let the arguing commence!!!!!! I will try and smile on my B.D. and secretly we will both know why. Thank you CHEERFUL, I will try and be just that!!!!

 

[Cheerful]

Cheerful, thanks for the post it helped me (a little) however I will try and take your advice and I AM SPECIAL (looks good typed out) and this B.D. will not let him get me down. I am already being told that we do not have money for gifts and my B.D. is not till Aug. this has been my story for 20 yrs. Maybe I will take charge of the gift giving this year huh? he is actually watching me type this as we speak and could give a shit. Brave little FUCKER is he not? My grandson's B.D. is July 4th. this Sat. is his party and I have been stressing out about it because my hubby is telling me we have no money for his gift now as well. Let the arguing commence!!!!!! I will try and smile on my B.D. and secretly we will both know why. Thank you CHEERFUL, I will try and be just that!!!!

Wow Bunny! Your positive energy JUMPS off the screen! I actually felt it! Yeah Bunny! You Go Girl!!