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TroubleGuy
Appreciate all the replies but had to quote this one!
You're right, I do want him to act a certain way because the idiot is his own worst enemy and if he'd just listen one time to his close friends he'd get way farther in life than he will the way he's going.
Haha, believe it or not the guy trains at the same MMA gym I do, so we've thrown down a few times in sparring/fight practice. It's when we're outside the gym where he makes all his friends look bad though and that's gonna lead to us just excluding him from everything we do. Dude's a liability at the very least... I saw him flip out on some lady who asked him to drive slower in the neighborhood cause her kids were in the street. Screaming all kinds of obscenities at the lady... while she was kind of a bitch, she didn't deserve that.
To top it off there were a few of us sharing a house at the time, so we kinda had to make it a point to socialize with the neighbors when he wasn't around so they wouldn't let his actions bias their opinion toward us.
They are not going to change any more than you or I would, I accept the people in my life that act this way, realize how they handle certain situations and then just avoid those situations, if possible. If not, give them the "Look I'm gonna do this, if you act this way speech".
You hit on your source of pain right here, "you want" your friend to act a certain way. You want, not He wants. You make the point about being open minded, and since you put this post up I'm guessing you care about this friend enough to try and correct whatever it is that is cramping your friendship. Show him/her this post, smoke a fatty, come to an agreement, move on.
You're right, I do want him to act a certain way because the idiot is his own worst enemy and if he'd just listen one time to his close friends he'd get way farther in life than he will the way he's going.
and now that my wife is done typing her advice (which i mostly agree with) here's mine......
IF that doesn't work and its a guy your problem is with..... Fight.
punching a passive aggressive, should snap him right out of that train of thought.
If its not worth bleeding over then its not worth stressing over either.
Haha, believe it or not the guy trains at the same MMA gym I do, so we've thrown down a few times in sparring/fight practice. It's when we're outside the gym where he makes all his friends look bad though and that's gonna lead to us just excluding him from everything we do. Dude's a liability at the very least... I saw him flip out on some lady who asked him to drive slower in the neighborhood cause her kids were in the street. Screaming all kinds of obscenities at the lady... while she was kind of a bitch, she didn't deserve that.
To top it off there were a few of us sharing a house at the time, so we kinda had to make it a point to socialize with the neighbors when he wasn't around so they wouldn't let his actions bias their opinion toward us.