Dealing with the gf's boy

[Sparky 6]

He's living with us while he goes to school which is cool but when those situations exist there will always be some problems of some sort.

I don't watch TV, I don't work because of health and I get most of my entertainment from being online. Not long ago my computer had a problem and when I got it straightened out as much as I could it was very slow, especially online. Well finally got it so that it was only slow online, so I paid for a faster connection but it didn't fix it. I thought maybe he was getting all the bandwidth but he swore he didn't know how to limit his router.

Well I finally found out how to limit it and found that he had set the router to the highest setting. I was ecstatic to fix the problem but was furious when I realized he had lied and was taking all my internet. I limited it so that he has access to 1/3 of our connection, even though he doesn't pay for any of it.

Well today I notice my internet is slightly slower again so I check his router settings and he set it higher again. Yeah I'm ticked again. Planning to let him know that if he does it again I'll cut him off and he can find a way to set up his own internet account.

I'm trying to keep my cool here but you don't F with my internet man. Am I being ridiculous here or am I thinking straight?

 

[humble1]

You're right, but it's a hard place to be nonetheless. Try to get the gf to deal with the situation first and set up some kind of password protection for your router. This kinda crap is why my lady's little girls are getting the boot @ 18 or when they graduate highschool, whatever comes first. I've been on the other side of the fence, too, as a child living in a step-parent's house. He may technically be an adult, but there's little way but time to reduce his agitation over the fact that you're boning his mom.
Good luck and keep your cool!

 

[Sparky 6]

Thanks humble1. It's actually his router so I didn't feel comfortable changing the password that gives him access to my internet but I just went ahead and did it anyway. If he has a problem with it I'll give him his router, put my old one back and have him arrange his own internet I guess.

 

[humble1]

If you want to avoid conflict (and get the little stinker back) you can do what I do all the time. My old lady has two young girls and they often receive toys as presents that make an unpleasant amount of noise. I take out the batteries and sometimes disable the sound function manually once I find the little speaker in there. Granted, most routers don't have batteries but you could unscrew the housing and discreetly snip a few wires in there. Then, when he asks you why you changed the routers you can just tell him it mysteriously stopped working and you had to swap it out. No drama about changing passwords and what belongs to who, just a neat solution and none the wiser.
Think about it!

 

[Sparky 6]

LOL too funny. That's not my style actually I'm the type to confront and discuss. Especially when I'm in the right. My gf will back me already know that. He just came downstairs guess I'll have to talk about it now.

 

[Sparky 6]

Kept it pithy, didn't tell him I changed the PW or what the consequences will be next time- figure everyone likes a surprise.

 

[humble1]

Good job. What did he say?

 

[Sparky 6]

Well he switched over to Windows 7 yesterday so he said it was a temporary thing while he DLed all those Windows files. I told him I was here and he could have asked me, and that it wasn't his internet to take. Said next time to ask first, but he won't have much of a choice now anyway. =D

 

[Sparky 6]

"You have given out too much Reputation in the last 24 hours, try again later."

 

[Stoner4Life]

He's living with us while he goes to school which is cool but when those situations exist there will always be some problems of some sort.

I don't watch TV, I don't work because of health and I get most of my entertainment from being online. Not long ago my computer had a problem and when I got it straightened out as much as I could it was very slow, especially online. Well finally got it so that it was only slow online, so I paid for a faster connection but it didn't fix it. I thought maybe he was getting all the bandwidth but he swore he didn't know how to limit his router.

Well I finally found out how to limit it and found that he had set the router to the highest setting. I was ecstatic to fix the problem but was furious when I realized he had lied and was taking all my internet. I limited it so that he has access to 1/3 of our connection, even though he doesn't pay for any of it.

Well today I notice my internet is slightly slower again so I check his router settings and he set it higher again. Yeah I'm ticked again. Planning to let him know that if he does it again I'll cut him off and he can find a way to set up his own internet account.

I'm trying to keep my cool here but you don't F with my internet man. Am I being ridiculous here or am I thinking straight?

that's 2 strikes right? lied/fucked you twice. one more chance and then cut him off w/o notice. do NOT challenge him as your gf will side w/her son, just cut his access off, AND if he promises to start paying you for access you can bet your bottom dollar he'll screw ya again, make him get his own account as you'd stated.

you're 100% in the right.

next time all 3 of you sit down to eat (if you do) together grab his plate slide 3/4's of it onto yours and then start growling at him, college kids are usually the dimmest imo but I imagine he'll get the point.......

 

[qdavid]

Routers are cheap:

http://www.walmart.com/ip/ZyXEL-Prestige-Wireless-Internet-Sharing-Router-P330W/10927973

$46 at Wally World. Get one, keep password private, limit his access. Avoid the drama that might escalate. Problem solved.

 

[SuperSizeMe]

Kept it pithy, didn't tell him I changed the PW or what the consequences will be next time- figure everyone likes a surprise.

 

[Sparky 6]

LOL @ lots here. Truthfully though yes it is maddening. I'm cool now but when these things happen they do tick me off. Actually though the gf is more than happy for me to deal out the rules/punishments and she backs me all the way. The problem with that is it's her boy and I want her to do it but she's afraid he won't like her anymore. Yet another maddening thing that ticks me off. Now you see why I smoke so much. =p

qdavid- thanks but it doesn't look like that will be necessary, but it's filed away for future consideration. Things don't really get like that here- usually I am respected, but boys will be boys etc.

 

[Hank Hemp]

Tell her, her kids will all ways love her they have no choice, you're their mom.

 

[FreezerBoy]

Reset? You're more lenient than I'd be. I'd have pulled the wire from the wall and sealed up the outlet.

 

[Sparky 6]

This is the result of years of work. I've had severe anger management issues in the past and I have a history of violence. I don't go there anymore and I'm proud of the person I am now. I guess if anything I don't want to over-react.

@Hank We've had that conversation many times- it's deep seated and will take work on her part.

 

[One Love 731]

I fill ya Sparky. I give up, Momma has 3 girls and I tell ya, it sounds easier to move to Vegas and do my own thing. I do get worried though, I have been known to run pretty hard without a good women to slow me down. I keep two households going already cuz Im not willing to live with 4 girls that know everything. If I took anything personal I would be a crazy mess all the time. Growing and smoking really mellows me out, its the best therapy on earth. Karma, One Love

 

[longearedfriend]

i'm surprised your allowing the guy to live with you still

once someone lies to me..

 

[whodair]

I've had severe anger management issues in the past and I have a history of violence. I don't go there anymore and I'm proud of the person I am now. I guess if anything I don't want to over-react.

so you think you can take him ?? you got the anger/rage but you are getting older...if hes a wrestler you're gonna have your hands full homie !!

he prolly heard ya bangin his ma ...

 

[HighDesertJoe]

How old's this prick?