Dating someone that doesn't smoke when you not only smoke kind but grow.....

[the lonely shoe]

the other thing is like "background"..
i used to DJ so been around a lot of drugs ,free parties,squats,raves ETC

but not anymore quiet life for me....
my missus used to go clubbing with mates and she was the straight one ,so she's not blind to it lets put it that way

but myself..i have stopped taking class A's apart from shrroommss every now and then and she's still fine with that....of the shitty coke and dodgy pills

so again i guess i'm lucky

 

[barth]

I was with my wife 7 years before we got married. She doesnt smoke, drink or do anything really. She knew i smoked daily. She didnt care. Then we got married and within 6 months started complaining about the money i spent on weed. I explained to her that i could grow my own for a fraction of the cost of buying from dealers. I got my mmj recomendation started growing and haven't heard anything since. Ive been growing for about 3 years.

 

[cyberwax]

not to be the ass here but whats up with all the personal problems threads?

You know the answers, so why ask.

 

[xfargox]

I just laugh at girls that think marijuana's bad. Honest to god, today a girl that I'm hooking up with tried to tell me it was bad. I hit her up with Lester Grinspoon's stuff and a few statistics (no deaths, etc) and laughed at her until she apologized for saying it.

I'm kind of an asshole.

 

[flyingkite]

not to be the ass here but whats up with all the personal problems threads?

You know the answers, so why ask.

LOL

 

[JacuzziSplot]

not to be the ass here but whats up with all the personal problems threads?

You know the answers, so why ask.

It sound like an important question that you cant talk about in the public eye where else is he supposed to ask.

 

[Yes4Prop215]

Definitely don't tell her about growing. I've been in too many breakups where the women just got vindictive and did everything they could to hurt me afterwards. You just don't know at this point if she's like that, and there's no reason to take the risk.

i hear this. i recently met this bitch who was really bitter against her ex husband who recently got into growing. she was trying to find someone to go break into his house and rob him. shady bitch we call her the "stage 3 clinger" shes fucking psycho.

 

[cyberwax]

It sound like an important question that you cant talk about in the public eye where else is he supposed to ask.

I hear that, but as he lays it out he obviously knows the answers, he cant reveal to his girl that he grows, nor that he smokes. So he either have to quit it or ditch the girl, wichever love comes first. Or find a sweet middleway where he grows somewhere else and cheats on his girlfriend by smoking in the dark. What other options are there? He could gamble and tell her everything and loose it all, yet still he knows the answers. I guess all the yummybud threads have made me kinda edgy when it comes to personal questions and obvious answers.

 

[the lonely shoe]

not to be the ass here but whats up with all the personal problems threads?

You know the answers, so why ask.

its valentines

 

[Double Kindness]

I smoked when my husband and I met and quit for a few years and started back up for medical reasons and he's always been a pothead. I'd bring him pot even when I didn't smoke. I will admit that when I didn't smoke our relationship had a lot of stress in it, and now not so much.

Growing together is a really wonderful experience, it has brought my husband and I really close with each other, except we do sometimes disagree about when to harvest... and when I add a new strain to our garden.. sometimes he balks, but we usually work through it.

It could work for you guys, but if you're a pothead and grower then you'd probably be much better off with similar or emapthetic mate. But if you're feeling "it" that chemistry, then totally give it a shot. She could always convert to being a pothead, did you ever think about that too?

 

[Elijah]

Just tell her bro.the longer u leave it the worse it'll get.every relationship is built(& maintained..get my drift?)on honesty.also if she's anti folk like us,then u gotta educate her.either way,good luck man.

 

[jgrow]

Just cause she is your wife at the moment doesn't mean she will always be and when shes someone elses wife and hating you whats to stop her from telling him, then him and his buddies are robbing your ass.

My ex was all for me selling(small time) once i reminded her that this is how I'm paying for your ass to move 1500 miles away, she would bitch at me ever few days until i reminded her, she doesn't have a job and I'm bailing her ass out with this money. Needless to say she did exactly what a woman would do, she took my money, moved, waited for me to get there two months later once i could afford it, to send me packing. Its ok i only quit my job i had to get cause i was unable to sell once i gave her literally every dollar i had. Sold both my cars, and told all family and friends i was moving. To this day she still thinks she did nothing wrong. haha



Thats why you cant tell a woman, till a solid 10 years of marriage.

 

[DimeBag65]

i dont know how long you have known this girl... or how strong your guys bond is together... sounds like its been pretty casual and you know her from around kinda... not like a long time friend .... so you might wanna wait on the whole growing thing until you show her some information on the subject....

most people growing up.. are led to believe that growing pot is horrible and rankin up there with meth labs and child mollesters. so it can be an iffy subject especially due to the legallity of it....

that being said you have some different circumstances than what a few have posted... you have a steady job, are professional and have a hobby when your relaxing at home...

as far as her saying she doesnt have a problem with it... there are some personalities of females that really dont care as long as your happy and its not really affecting them... usually very laid back chill girls, definitely not demanding.... usually it does become a problem at some point due to the fact females that dont smoke usually feel when your stoned your not paying attention and are shut down stoned... not giving them the kind of attention they so desire... or think they want...

if you are planning on having a long term relationship with this girl it will probly be less about the growing... and more about you keeping a secret from her if your in for the long haul...

that being said... it is very nice to have a relationship with someone who enjoys smoking herb... it can be bonding and its something for you guys to share and do together... so it would be more of a preference of having a girl that smokes over it being a big deal to her... it might be something that you want in a female...

my female smoked alot with me in the beginning of the relationship and hasnt smoked in months... i personally feel there is more strain on the relationship without her smoking... not that its a big deal to her... or that shes particularly pissy.... just nice to chill with your girl and blaze one....

the decision is WHAT do you really want... if you really want her.. go for it... easy information to her as she is ready... if she loves you it wont matter... personality is a big thing with that one though....

 

[SpasticGramps]

I could never be in a relationship with someone who didn't smoke. I don't think it would really cross my mind. I know plenty of great girls that don't smoke and am close to some of them, but I could never be in an exclusive relationship with them. It's a different level for me.

And about the grow and the girl..... It's a roll of the dice.

IMHO

 

[simple green]

Hey first off those of you that gave your varied and thoughtful opinions + experiences, I appreciate it...

She is a friend for a few years..a pretty good and trusted friend...she woulda been my girl a year or two if she smoked......and if we go for it it's for the long term..the real deal....

Gramps I've operated that way in the past...only looking for a girl that smokes...but as a professional in my 30's and where I am...they are simply not around....

Not growing for a while isn't really an option. I started growing because reliable, non sketchy, and good weed can't be found round here unless you do it yourself....

not to be the ass here

then why post

he cant reveal to his girl that he grows, nor that he smokes. I guess all the yummybud threads have made me kinda edgy when it comes to personal questions and obvious answers.

It doesn't seem you've read and understand the original post....

If you don't like these types of threads, and your goal is to be less of an ass, then you could just ignore this thread, move on, and be polite while everyone else is helpful. Thanks

 

[geemail]

I married a woman who didn't smoke, drink or anything. Thought it was worth it to change _my_ ways. I hid around it, and even abstained for several years at a time. Now I wished I had found a girl who had similar interests. She isn't really in to music either. (Straight as an arrow).

I would say it's better to move on now than to wish you had. You don't have to be mean about it, and I'm sure it will not be easy either.

G

 

[SpasticGramps]

If I can't be honest in a relationship.... Then I'm not going to get into it. That's just how I roll.

I don't judge others for doing otherwise, but hiding stuff always brings negative energy and stress. Both are toxic IMO.


It's chemistry though. It can be a bitch sometimes. If it was so easy, eh?

 

[itisme]

Not an EZ SITUATION!

I have issues with the same thing!

The last lady I was dating had 3 kids and when I mentioned I smoked she was GONE IN AN INSTANT.

I had anther that I dated for awhile. A month in I sit down and she says My MOM says your a big time pot dealer and you grow.....I said, " I wish that was the fist time I heard that bullshit!" I had to bumb 7 grams from my friend today. How BIGTIME IS THAT! I HATE SMALL TOWNS!

 

[RVCA]

I smoked when my husband and I met and quit for a few years and started back up for medical reasons and he's always been a pothead. I'd bring him pot even when I didn't smoke. I will admit that when I didn't smoke our relationship had a lot of stress in it, and now not so much.

Growing together is a really wonderful experience, it has brought my husband and I really close with each other, except we do sometimes disagree about when to harvest... and when I add a new strain to our garden.. sometimes he balks, but we usually work through it.

It could work for you guys, but if you're a pothead and grower then you'd probably be much better off with similar or emapthetic mate. But if you're feeling "it" that chemistry, then totally give it a shot. She could always convert to being a pothead, did you ever think about that too?

i think greenhead owes you an apology... i dont think your weird at all

 

[simple green]

I married a woman who didn't smoke, drink or anything. Thought it was worth it to change _my_ ways. I hid around it, and even abstained for several years at a time. Now I wished I had found a girl who had similar interests. She isn't really in to music either. (Straight as an arrow).

I would say it's better to move on now than to wish you had. You don't have to be mean about it, and I'm sure it will not be easy either.
G

Thats what I've done w/ this girl for a while and I may have to....It would be hard for me I don't find mutual attraction easily....

If I can't be honest in a relationship.... Then I'm not going to get into it. That's just how I roll.

I don't judge others for doing otherwise, but hiding stuff always brings negative energy and stress. Both are toxic IMO.


It's chemistry though. It can be a bitch sometimes. If it was so easy, eh?

It is a bitch...I totally, totally agree with you...I don't want to get close to someone that doesn't truely know me....

Not an EZ SITUATION!

I have issues with the same thing!

The last lady I was dating had 3 kids and when I mentioned I smoked she was GONE IN AN INSTANT.

I had anther that I dated for awhile. A month in I sit down and she says My MOM says your a big time pot dealer and you grow.....I said, " I wish that was the fist time I heard that bullshit!" I had to bumb 7 grams from my friend today. How BIGTIME IS THAT! I HATE SMALL TOWNS!

Thanks mom!
Well if she still wanted to date you after that, you'd be good...

This girl has no kids and out of the two of us I would want kids a lil more than her...

During the discussion she brought up "maybe if I smoke again...it's been a while"...Not that I wouldn't be happy to toke her up, I don't want her to be or turn into something else to try to make me happy.....but she's definitely not anti smoking....