Two and a half years ago my wife's father died. At the time it was tough for everyone to scrape up the money just for burial but we all agreed we would chip in 6mos later for a headstone. He has 7 children and a wife, his second and not the father of his children.
Fast forward 2.5 years and no one has any money or won't answer calls. I see on facebook they all go to the coast every other weekend, or just bought a mac book or a bmw whatever the bullshit reason. How pathetic. We get to go up there and wander around hoping we're putting the flowers on the right piece of lawn.
I decided it's a priority and want to buy and have it set. So I called the cemetery and they said his wife owns the plot. I would need to ask her permission. Or sign a form holding the cemetary not liable if she should see it and decide it wasn't right. Which is the problem
The oldest son and the wife both were insisting at the time that he have a large monument and it was going to be $3500 so we have to put in together to honor him properly. We can afford a nice stone but not a monument so part of me thinks it's going to be a problem getting permission and a problem after we do it.
But then again, they haven't done a single thing..... I doubt any of them have gone up there. Think I should just do it? Try and talk to the widow? she's just, well, not nice.
This has been weighing heavy on my mind lately.The guy at the cemetery told me a stone is about $800-$1000 and a monument is $2000-$3000 and up, is that a normal sounding figure?
Thanks
Fast forward 2.5 years and no one has any money or won't answer calls. I see on facebook they all go to the coast every other weekend, or just bought a mac book or a bmw whatever the bullshit reason. How pathetic. We get to go up there and wander around hoping we're putting the flowers on the right piece of lawn.
I decided it's a priority and want to buy and have it set. So I called the cemetery and they said his wife owns the plot. I would need to ask her permission. Or sign a form holding the cemetary not liable if she should see it and decide it wasn't right. Which is the problem
The oldest son and the wife both were insisting at the time that he have a large monument and it was going to be $3500 so we have to put in together to honor him properly. We can afford a nice stone but not a monument so part of me thinks it's going to be a problem getting permission and a problem after we do it.
But then again, they haven't done a single thing..... I doubt any of them have gone up there. Think I should just do it? Try and talk to the widow? she's just, well, not nice.
This has been weighing heavy on my mind lately.The guy at the cemetery told me a stone is about $800-$1000 and a monument is $2000-$3000 and up, is that a normal sounding figure?
Thanks