Do you talk to people?

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Earlier I was listening to a great Douglas Stanhope bit regarding people complaining about Mexicans living here who can't speak English. He offered an effective solution: don't talk to them. He joked that he actually times when he'll check his mail as to avoid his neighbors he hates people so much, and that nobody in this country talks to strangers anyway.

I am like this too. I don't talk to anyone, and I don't feel I'm missing out on much. It's not a philosophy that I've measured or anything. It's just that in the moment I rarely if ever find myself with an urge to learn what is on the mind of the person next to me. Indeed, I've taken every reasonable measure possible to avoid small talk in my life: I bank online, I shop(mostly)online, and so on.

Are you like this? Do you talk to your neighbors, or strangers? Do you head to the bar to drink to hang with strangers or do you just stay home?

 

[theHIGHlander]

Earlier I was listening to a great Douglas Stanhope bit regarding people complaining about Mexicans living here who can't speak English. He offered an effective solution: don't talk to them. He joked that he actually times when he'll check his mail as to avoid his neighbors he hates people so much, and that nobody in this country talks to strangers anyway.

I am like this too. I don't talk to anyone, and I don't feel I'm missing out on much. It's not a philosophy that I've measured or anything. It's just that in the moment I rarely if ever find myself with an urge to learn what is on the mind of the person next to me. Indeed, I've taken every reasonable measure possible to avoid small talk in my life: I bank online, I shop(mostly)online, and so on.

Are you like this? Do you talk to your neighbors, or strangers? Do you head to the bar to drink to hang with strangers or do you just stay home?

so what your saying is your a newage Hermit.....


keep it green
highlander

 

[THC123]

i like talking to people and it pains me that lot's of people have a wall surrounding them making society feel cold.

At least in my country , in Italy people seem to be a lot more social when i walk in the streets , i bet it is the sun that does this

Why wouldn't you say hi to a stranger , lot's of people get that weird look on their face when you greet them without knowing them. That kinda pisses me off , everyone should be more friendly, it feels good walking in the streets with everyone so friendly , i had this in a village in holland(dedemsvaart) when i was there for work.

Everyone said hello and was friendly to everyone , including me, a stranger whom they never saw before

 

[love?]

I say hi to my neighbors but thats as far as it goes. Some of them reply some of them don't.

It's funny. In the countryside where people live far apart they know their neighbors well, here in the city where we're literally only separated by a thin wall we don't even know each other's names.

 

[shawkmon]

i drink at home with my wife, i am southern and we speak and open doors and what not , but yea ive become a new age hermit like yerself, i do my best not to talk to neighbors or to go anywhere, i send my wife out, i have her tricked, she thinks she doesnt let me go shopping because i spend too much money but really i hate shopping and dont want to go anyway, most people talk about useless nonsense to begin with

small minds talk about people
good minds talk about events
great minds talk about ideas

i get my socialization here at icmag where i can discuss everything without having to even get dressed, peace

 

[KMK0420]

so what your saying is your a newage Hermit.....


keep it green
highlander

K+

 

[mtbazz]

I am also like this. Alot of it has to do with my work schedule. I am basically away from home from 7:00 a.m. to 7:00 pm 5 days a week, and am usually in bed by nine pm on work nights. As a result I have VERY little free time so I really do my best to stay at home and avoid people. I dont like large crowds (or small crowds for that matter), and get irratated and impatient when I have to deal with crowds. Bank online, shop online, etc...Even when it comes to socializing I really don't feel a huge need to go out and socialize, as a matter of fact I avoid it as much as possible. Part of it is because I find most people don't really have much to say that I want to hear, and the other part of it is that I am a quiet person to begin with, and I find that most people take advantage of that and just start talking for the sake of talking.

I do try to get out once or twice a month just to keep in contact with certain people. But even those times are limited to interactions of less than two hours.

I think overall I am this way not because of antisocial tendencies (of which I have some I admit), but a general lack of free time. I mean, I basically have 2 days out of the week to myself, and much of that time is spent getting caught up on household chores. This does not leave alot of time for having a busy social life.

This lifestyle has also caused me a certain amount of grief also from some people who just dont understand what it is like to have very little free time available.

 

[Stoner4Life]

I get out and talk to plenty of folks, I do coffee in the mornings
with a group of old timers about 1-2 X's a week, I stop by the
local general store/post office (just like Green Acres) to visit w/
some of my neighbors almost every day that I can.......

 

[JQP]

I was more social when I was younger. I live out in the country and don't get too much chance to talk to neighbors. I'd go nuts if I couldn't get out and talk to someone once in a while, but basically, the older I get, the more anti-social I have become. Didn't mind crowds (i.e. concerts) years ago, wouldn't go to one now if ya paid me. Don't like crowds, don't like cities.

JQ (turning into a miserable old coot!)

 

[Normannen]

I'd pay for people to talk to me

 

[Cookie monster]

I think the world is a nicer place when people take a minute to say hello or stop for a chat.

Makes queuing up in the bank or post office a little less boring.

 

[CANNACO-OP]

I chat with everyone pretty much..... I had posted this somewhere before, but here it is again.

One day, be extra nice, talk to everyone, say hello, open doors, chat with your store clerks, etc.... note your feelings at the end of the day.

then next day, say nothing. Try to remain silent....Note your feelings...

Not always easiest for everyone to do for a full 24 hour day....but if you can, try a variation of it.....

 

[MoldyFrogToe]

It really depends.

Most days I can't stop talking, I have to watch myself. I always like new people or strangers if there's something to talk about.

Every so often though I'm in my own world for one reason or another, and won't make any conversation at all, will keep to myself, etc...complete opposite.

We need more friendly people, and less who are too scared/uptight to have a nice talk with a stranger every so often.

That makes me think of a time I was about to board a plane, going through the metal detector. My box had gone through the xray to the other side, I had to walk through but I forgot to put my bagel back, I had to put it through the conveyor xray. Since my box had already been through I had to put my bagel, wrapped with creamcheese, lightly ontop of someone else's box with their shoes.
I asked kind of chuckling if I could put it there, he gives me this weird stare like I just asked him to toothbrush my ass...and finally says alright, hopefully that's the weirdest thing that'll happen to me today.
I was thinking dude...it's just a bagel. And it's wrapped in paper, no less. People need to LOOSEN UP!!! LOL!

 

[whiterabbit9]

I talk to people. but not a lot of people make me want to talk to them that's for sure

I guess it makes it more special/enjoyable when I actually find people that are worth talking to

 

[HighTech]

I talk to people, and keep talking to them till they walk away really fast like those funny olympians.

 

[Joe Hawkins]

Im your random "Gday mate" type. I say gday or at least smile to people who make eye contact, then to break the ice , I state the obvious like if im at a piss trough and theres someone standing next to me pissing, ill say "havin a piss mate?" or if a I see a grommet munchin shit i'll say "Hoeing into the junk food there youngster?"

 

[DankSide]

Of course!
I can't think of a day thats gone by without talking to ANYONE.
I find generally in country areas with smaller populations, the people are more apt to have a good conversation or say hello.
In cities its kind of like strangers are all too busy with their set of goals to even stop for a quick hello.

Strangers aside, I talk to friends and family - we all have those right?

 

[PermaBuzz]

I have noticed in myself that the less densely populated a place is,
the more I value the company of others.
When I'm camping or driving in a remote area, I'm much friendlier
than I am in urban or especially suburban environments.

 

[Perpetual Nooch]

That makes me think of a time I was about to board a plane, going through the metal detector. My box had gone through the xray to the other side, I had to walk through but I forgot to put my bagel back, I had to put it through the conveyor xray. Since my box had already been through I had to put my bagel, wrapped with creamcheese, lightly ontop of someone else's box with their shoes.
I asked kind of chuckling if I could put it there, he gives me this weird stare like I just asked him to toothbrush my ass...and finally says alright, hopefully that's the weirdest thing that'll happen to me today.
I was thinking dude...it's just a bagel. And it's wrapped in paper, no less. People need to LOOSEN UP!!! LOL!

I woulda asked you for a bite. MMMMMMM, bagel and cream cheese.

 

[dubwise]

I'm a friendly type of person and I'll speak to anyone. I live out in the country and so I see my neighbors every now & then and we wave and say hey. Aside from that, when I'm in public, I generally don't speak to people when I'm out in the city. Most of the people in the city nearby are rude and stupid.