B1's Yummybud thread with ACTUAL REAL problems!

[b1oK0mp0St3R]

Heya folks,

I need a rant thread, somewhere where i can share my personal experiences in life; and where we can learn to overcome real problems in life, not made-up ones.

This is not a complaint dept., nor a yummy bud thread so please do not treat it like one.

This thread should be filled with loving retort (no matter how much of an ass you feel like being today), and positive vibes.

If you can't say anything nice, plz don't!!!

So let's get to work

Today's problem is actually a long standing one... so here we go!

-I have never had a roomate and now i have one, he's kool as can be does artwork and is very quiet with a mild stutter when he is calm and a serious stutter when he is upset [ may i add no stutter whenb he is drunk].

Now i love the dude like a brother, but as i said i have never really had a roomate and am not particularly in the mood for one.

On the other hand helping some one out has been on my moral priorities list so here he is... he helps me i help him with housing and food.

Now the roomate wants to move to spain to a squat with some friends he has down there, since it is getting cold as f*ck up here.

No problems, right... get a train ticket or lift up the thumb and go...sure this would work.

Except i have another friend whom has recently been released from jail and being that his girl and two kids refuse to speak to him, he wants to move to spain, too - and has a car.

To make matters more complicated there is friend number three, whom has a serious IV meth problem, long standing addiction. His girl just got pregnent, so to clean him up we wanted to send him to spain, too. He has been begging for an escape for long (almost got him to got ot the mountains of nepal- but he scooted out last minute of course).

This was two weeks ago, the roomate has had his duffel bag packed for a week already since wednesday b4 we got told by the friend with the car they would be leaving by that friday at the latest. On monday after, the friend still had some excuses about not having enough cash, yadda yadda. As time went on i started getting frustrated and having some things in spain to take care of, I told the friend with the car that i would take the roomie down myself. I told the friend with the car myself because he was my friend and barely knows roomie, and also because i figured the stutter and general kind nature of roomie (unless drinking alcohol) might hinder communication.

The friend with the car immediately started calling roomie a back-stabber, and started yelling; where as we started arguing on he said she said bullshit. So I explained that roomie is just sick of getting told every two days to get ready that they are leaving soon. Roomie has artwork to do for consignment, and cash would help; instead he sat around waiting not wanting to start something only to not be able to finish it.

So roomie [getting called a back-stabber for not going] said he would go with them, but only if they leave soon; and also cancelled a ride he arranged through some internet cross country hitchhiking site.

Last wednesday we get told they would be leaving by friday night or saturday by the latest, then comes some bs excuse, with a promise of will come and pick him up sunday at 10 am. So i stay up all night trying to cook up some meals for the road, and we finalize all our tidings blessings e-mail adresses etc, making plans. Ten oclock sunday rolls around, dude doesn't even call. We pass out exhausted and wake up in the afternoon without even a fucking phone call. So i call up dude, who tells me he just walked out of church, like that makes it okay he is screwing his friends over. Either way, I flip. I was polite and mentioned nothing about how disgusting it is to think going to church will make up for screwing your friends over. I am a forgiver and do not judge, and so he knows i will not ever really get that mad.

Except this time I am.

It is uncool to call someone a backstabber, and then leave him with packed bags waiting for over a week.

It is uncool to lead on someone one as he is.

It is uncool to assume i will just forgive him as always.

Also, I should mention friend with car causing problems owes me 'bout two hundred dollars from cak in the day which he told me he would give back to me so many times i actually told him i don't want it back just so he wouldn't keep saying that shit. Stupid me, lent him another two hundred last month out of my food money, so i ate very modestly for a few weeks, while he used the money to take out a loan he just got scammed on and never got any $.

Oh, and he girl of the friend with the meth problem decided to start doing meth agaion and so we have an aborted child o think about to as of a few days ago, lovely situation i tell you.

Friend with car has not called or written since i chewed him out for being a crappy friend. Though i sense soon I will be hearing his helpful cry, or more likely he will just stop by un-announced at the worst possible moment.

SO

The question stands....

What the heck should i do with this situation????

One option is to just tell friend with car to kiss off, and make sure he knows i mean it seriously.

Another option is to have roomie stay here for a bit longer and help me with some projects, then sending him by car or train at our own will and timing.

Also an option would be to wait things out, get some chores done; and send roomie of with friend when friend is ready to finally go... if ever.

Any suggestions dear fellow ICers. I ussually deal with my own shit piles, nut this one has grown over my head.

Thanks,
BKompost

 

[b1oK0mp0St3R]

One more thing

Most people i know (counts to five)
only stop by or call me when they want to smoke

i dont sell
maybe that's the problem hehe

Do i just tell em all to blow one, since we have a three plant rule, tell em grow your own, and spend the rest of my life hanging out with cyber friends~ losing all social skills- as if i have any??? lol

or do i just pretend to not notice that whenever santa claus decides to give them bags of herbs they just dont call or stop by for long periods.

In other words I think I am asking....

Are people making a dumbass out of me, and if so why???
Is it cause I am nice?
Does nice = stupid in some sphere of life i don't get???

C'mon y'all tell me how ya deal with the crap people dump on you daily. I used to do a lot of excersice in the spring, but it seems like there is too much work in the fall round the house, and one just can't seem to wrap their head around the social structures that surround me.

Kompostin'

 

[whiterabbit9]

welcome to icmag

we offer advice on how to grow good weed
and we also offer counseling services for the needy

lol

just poking fun at you, I come here for advice too

 

[TrichyTrichy]

It's better to be in one's own company, than with bad company. You are too nice,to them.

 

[NOKUY]

advice from here should be strongly questioned

 

[b1oK0mp0St3R]

yah man i agree, this place needs a local counselor
or at least some sort of a theorist to sort us through

I'd hate that label though, personally.
I got plenty of my own problems, and people start thinking counselors don't have there own issues and get all weird around them.

Either way, I love icmag for sure and thank you for the kind welcome white rabbit 9

I keep thinking and thinking, I wonder if i am not becoming an ass from the whole "pot scene", where everything is hush hush because of the illegality, yet many people (not all) are not willing to fight for their basic liberties. I mean these people i want to deny medication to are just people, but can't they realize i too am only human and deserve at least standard treatment, this is the kinda stuff thaqt makes me start growing pot marigolds, spinach, and tomatoes; collecting seeds like a greed ridden monster. Instead of sharing the wealth, but with all the hate and distrust and perplexity of social interactions one just begins building a wall.

I am one of those people that believes walls lock people in, not keep people out; and so this thread is one of my ways of knocking down a few walls. Some in self-expression, where i keep my personal problems bottled-up, and one in understanding. Beyond all I would like to gain a firm understanding of how humanity works when so entrenched upon one another in a zeitgeist of social upheaval and a return to learning to live amongst one another with one another in harmony. How we co-exist and what we can do to learn to communicate better, these are all things which i strive to gain a greater understanding of.

Wishing you the best,
BKompost

 

[NOKUY]

you've obviously been in counseling

 

[NOKUY]

,

 

[b1oK0mp0St3R]

Thanks trichy, i just needed a second opinion and yours is as good as gold to me.

NOKUY, of course advice in general is over-rated. we can only suggest what we ourselves would do in that situation.

In my case I am looking for answers to long standing social dilemnas, and a few personal problems though i am not one to share personal problems on the internet, I guess maybe i am looking for some friends of a more real nature; as cyber as our avatars make us seem.

I want to good in this world, and i believe only together we can change the world.

With this said i have a new issue, though not really a problem- kinda just a confusing bother. Something keeps going meow in my living room??? Not often and not on regular basis, but like five times tonight already. First time i have ever heard this. I live in the countryside, so i dunno~ but there is no cat ion the living room, though my allergies are pretty bad today, weird. I have a dog, too. So? LOL I dunno how i would go about this, either...no worries.

Again thanks for the support and any other comments or even criticisms (of an amstel light nature, preferably) are welcome.

BKompost

 

[b1oK0mp0St3R]

youve obviously been in counseling

I have a book on counseling theories, too.

Problem is I am beginning to think those books are filled with lies.
The answers to the counselors questions are commonly answered by those whom he counsels, problem is rarely are the persons being counseled helped in any way.

A result of our cartesian based mechanist system, i believe.
Individualism and capitalism aren't really helping.
Also the fact that many people seem to think humanities problems are not their own personal problems, but here i go all crazy running nekked through the woods again.

BKompost

 

[Joe Hawkins]

You know this already, but they aren't your friends. Users types are akin to wild animals, they just rabidly consume with no conscience apart from their own survival. They will wear you down as they wear down everyone around them, while they blame their circumstances and society in general.

 

[h^2 O]

man that's so long, short version?

 

[Megas]

Okay I'm sober as a judge, I do a lot of reading for my major and I tried to read thise 4 times. I dunno wtf is going on and if I feel like pounding my face into the keyboard from this. My advice is to tell the lot of e'm to fuck off. Cause this is way too much shit to lay on someone who from what I'm assuming has their shit together. You know I'll admit I have a lot of aquaintences and very few close friends. Some people might say thats sad but the way I see it, at least I'm not dealing with shit like this.

 

[ChaosCatalunya]

Hi b1o,

Sadly, I think Joe and Megas are on the money, you are not the only person to bang their heads against the great wall trying to help silly people help themselves.

Leave them all there to freeze, go and see your friends in Spain alone, it is nice and warm here.

 

[opt1c]

cut your losses and be glad your plants and grow equipment haven't been jacked already not to mention your roomies packed bag... take him possibly, the guy with the stutter, but be glad that the others won't be coming along and later when they're all drugged out in jail they won't be able say you didn't offer to take them along... you get to be a nice guy and you loose the sketchy friends. and there is nothing wrong with that.

 

[b1oK0mp0St3R]

Heya folks,
new day here

Sounds like there is a general consensus, that i should try to find i new set of friends, except charlie; because he doesn't smoke much nor does he seem to take advantage of people.

Sadly, I think Joe and Megas are on the money, you are not the only person to bang their heads against the great wall trying to help silly people help themselves.

Leave them all there to freeze, go and see your friends in Spain alone, it is nice and warm here.

Amen to that!

You know this already, but they aren't your friends. Users types are akin to wild animals, they just rabidly consume with no conscience apart from their own survival. They will wear you down as they wear down everyone around them, while they blame their circumstances and society in general.

Very true, and well said!

Okay I'm sober as a judge

Not going there~

I dunno wtf is going on and if I feel like pounding my face into the keyboard from this.

Sorry, I have that effect on people; some get used to it, others don't

If you do a lot of reading for your major, i am sure; sooner or later you will run into writers like me- those whom like to make simple things complicated and place a lot of extra words and rhetorical thinking into their texts. Honestly, many people have problems reading texts similar to my style of writing. It takes patience, understanding, not being sober, a childlike sense of humor, and a keen belief in the fact that the person whom is writing the texts is completely nuts~ a good thing in most cases.

cut your losses and be glad your plants and grow equipment haven't been jacked already

Good point, fortunately none of them know how to grow, also on account of these dweebs (ex included) I had to stop growing for a good time- got the good ole Imma gonna call the cops on you from the ex.

Thank ya'll for the advice, I'll make sure to keep in touch on how things work out, for sure.

Till then it is Charlie, myself, the dog, and a whole bunch of giggly icers. Which sounds like loads of fun IMO!

Good times!

I got another one for anyone who feels like responding to my rants... much appreciated btw!

We are trying to make fruit roll ups from sea-buckthorn
Hippophae rhamnoides

I take the berries and squash 'em gently since we are also collecting the seeds.
Then I filter the mix to obtain only the liquid.
Adding some raw sugar and mollasses and then gelatin, i pour the concoction onto one of those fruit roll up maker trays in my dehumidifier.

When done, I can't seem to remove the roll up, it just is to gooey or if i leave it longer becomes too brittle, anyone have any experiences with making dried extracts of super sour stuff, or would maybe just a layer of saran wrap help~might get too heated in the dehumidifier.

Any experiences?

BKompost

 

[Joe Hawkins]

real fruit is much more nutritious, processed stuff binds your shit, leading to constipation leading to fissures in the rectum tissue= Blood Bum.

 

[LazLo]

James Earl Jones was a stutterer. Stutterers don't stutter when they sing. Singing helps overcome stuttering.

Having a good heart and intentions makes one more vuneralbe to amoral folks. They manipulate. Manipulation is their way of coping with life. They need to have power over others since they were dominated in their early years. They learn to manipulate situations to their advantage as a defensive survival tactic.

Pity them if you will...........but don't accommdate them. They will fade from you life.

 

[Lil 'o Me]

I've gotten realy burned twice, trying to help out a friend. Sometimes you just gotta ask yourself how you realy feal when your around that person. Your gut should tell you. I think that we are all capable of being good judges in caracter if we just listen to our instincts more. Ya know what I mean?

Good luck man. Life isn't easy..... if it was, it would be a board game......... wait.....