WHat do you do when you are about to hurt someone bad...

[JefersonAirplan]

Long story short. I will be moving out of my girlfriends apartment in a few hours. It will be an easy move physically, but I don't know how to do it!


I talked to her about it and she just cries and says im ditching her. So, my plan is to pack all my stuff and move before she gets back from work because I don't want to see her cry. She is a great girl, but it just isn't working anymore...

I feel confused. I think ill burn a bowl.


oh and im moving to get a job too. Already lined up.

 

[I N Hail]

I'd be upfront to her she deserves it.

End it as friends you'll both fill better.


INH

 

[HeD333]

Last year, I did this. Tell her the truth, don't watch her cry in your rear view

 

[BudGood]

Last year, I did this. Tell her the truth, don't watch her cry in your rear view

QFT. Man up and tell her the truth, AFTER your stuff is out. Try to keep it on a friendly note. Are you gonna leave her with bills she can't pay? If so, thats kinda screwed up IMO, especially if shes depending on your income. Either way, tell her the truth.

 

[ButteredIt]

I'd be upfront to her she deserves it.

End it as friends you'll both fill better.


INH

couldn't agree more.

 

[zenoonez]

Sucks but thats how life is. I know this is probably trite or stupid to quote a movie in response to this but here it is, "For what it's worth: it's never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There's no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you're proud of. If you find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again. " If it isn't going to work and it is time for your paths to depart do what must be done, knowing full well that it is painful but that to stay would be even more painful in the long run. People like that stay with you forever because you never stopped loving them, you just stopped being in love with them. I hope some of this make sense to you and I wish you luck with what you are going to do. I feel sorry for the young woman but if it best it must be done no matter how hard it is. Don't just leave, move your stuff and wait for her to get home. Talk to her. If you don't you better have a damn good note written. My 2 cents.

 

[One Love 731]

smoke tough and handle the move before she gets home, then pick her up from work and explain the situation and keep your hands to yourself. best of luck, karma, One Love

 

[JefersonAirplan]

I suppose I will write a long note. I am moving 120 miles away in one shot, no return trips. Its not like she didn't see this coming, she moved in her little sis, and ever since I been uncomfortable and cramped! Her little sis is NOT attractive, too young, and annoying as hell. Plus I can't GROW with her being here, and she is ALWAYS hogging the bathroom!!

Also I can use SUN POWER where I am moving to! ftw

 

[SmokinSHO]

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[Kizzattack]

Just make it quick. There's nothing worse than prolonging the awkward moments and making the situation more painful than it needs to be.

 

[Megas]

If the relationship isn't going well END IT. Stringing her along or yourself emotionally will screw you both over for a long time. Plus if she is a great girl like you say. Then don't put her through that.

If you are moving away (far) for a job then just play it off on that. Long distance relationships never work and just tell her your not willing to put a great girl like her through that kinda b.s. You'll have too much going on in the new city and trying to get your head around your new job to give her propper attention. <- She might appreciate hearing that likely not but once the cord is cut she'll move on so will you. Honestly you likely should have had this convo quite some time ago.

 

[MobbDeep]

Just pack up and have your shit ready..but leaving without atleast a good bye is def not the way to do it..thatll give her the wrong idea,and will def make her VERY sad..like you just left and didnt even bother to say goodbye..

However,have your shit packed ad ready to take off..since packing and shit while shes there wil be VERRRYYY AKWARD lol..and then smoke some cannabis,and wait for the wifey to egt home..then smoke some weed with her..make love to her one last time..and end it up as gently and as sweet as you can..tell her youll call her as soon as you get over there..and ya will be friends..make it seem like theres still a chance...and then ease it on out when your already there..over the weeks,shell just grow out of it..instead of it all hitting her in one time..you get me.

just ease on out of there..dont CRUSH her..women are emotional creatures..

 

[alaskan]

Slow down and really think about this for a second... do you already have erotic pictures/video of you guys to beat... "remember her" to?

Might want to slip that in before disappearing

 

[resinryder]

I suppose I will write a long note. ftw

Did you write her a long note when you moved in with her? Did you write a long note while you were hittin it? To be honest man, that's some sorry shit. Could possibly cause her to have emotional insecurities that will last her a long time. Bend over, pull your balls outta ya pussy, man up, and tell her the truth. Write a long note......bullshit

 

[chuckyoufarley]

Bend over, pull your balls outta ya pussy, man up

loma hahahhaa

 

[bobblehead]

I call bullshit too. It's better to tell the truth up front, and deal with the consequences of being an honest guy. In my case though I'm telling them I'm not interested in a girlfriend... lol

 

[lmv931]

I have been in the same situation myself....sucks man but the best way is just get you're stuff out quick. No matter what you do she is gonna cry....my advice would be to do it quick and easy...maybe get everything out then wait for her to get home and wish her luck...if you keep it friendly maybe you might hook back up (It happened to me and now we are married) things have a way of turning around givin enough time. just stay positive and friendly...eventually she will see what drove you away....hope things get better bro

 

[B.C.]

Its not like she didn't see this coming, she moved in her little sis, and ever since I been uncomfortable and cramped! Her little sis is NOT attractive, too young, and annoying as hell. Plus I can't GROW with her being here, and she is ALWAYS hogging the bathroom!!

Hogging the bathroom was the straw that broke the camels back, huh? awww..... ...... You obviously don't feel the same about yer girl friend as she does about you, so it's sounds like yer doing her a favor by leaving anyway, right? So jus leave..... BC

 

[JefersonAirplan]

So looks like karma caught up with me. I suppose.


I was expecting her to call a lot, but she was calling A LOT. Maybe 30 or 40 times after she got off work. I finally called her back hoping she would not be crying. She was crying, but from something else.

She got into a 5 car accident (not at fault, rear ended HARD).

Her car is totaled, and she is banged up black n blue, she will be out of work for a few days...


I feel like crap.

 

[zenoonez]

So looks like karma caught up with me. I suppose.


I was expecting her to call a lot, but she was calling A LOT. Maybe 30 or 40 times after she got off work. I finally called her back hoping she would not be crying. She was crying, but from something else.

She got into a 5 car accident (not at fault, rear ended HARD).

Her car is totaled, and she is banged up black n blue, she will be out of work for a few days...


I feel like crap.

Damn man. You still moving? If she is a good girl and you think it could work go do your thing and come back for her. Some people just aren't ready for the person they meet. The mistake is thinking that just because your ships met on the wrong night that they can't be right for one another in the long run.