Chicks (20s)

[Stoner4Life]

As mentioned above, the kind of girls you meet in clubs or out partying aren't the marrying type. My first wife I met in a club in Elmsford NY in '78....... big mistake


the gal I should've married I'd met in the Hunter Mtn ski lodge back in '75, she
was sitting on a sofa knitting a sweater and sipping an apple cider tea. An age
difference of six years (I was younger) was too much strain on the relationship
at the time. She was a level headed hard working chick, a stoner too.......

get a hobby that chicks enjoy too, skiing is an excellent place to meet babes,
being single on the lift lines is frowned upon so I always looked for a single gal
to pair up with for the lift ride to the top, yeah skiing is way easy for hook ups.

 

[shifty]

You want to meet cool chicks? Shit, you're in your 20's, you should be meeting them in school! Get your ass in school! And don't hook up with bobble-heads in bars! What the hell do you expect? Find one that's a science, pre-law, pre-med, engineering major...those are usually the ones that have brains and personality, plus, she'll be making bucks later! Do you really want a woman that actually falls for your bullshit ploys? To find a good woman takes effort, but it's worth it. Most guys are intimidated by gals with better than average brain cells, but if you want a partner, you have to find one that'd you'd also respect, instead thinking about boning all of the time. This type of thing goes beyond mere sexual attraction. Women, just like men, in their 20's are trying to figure their shit out, so cut the gals some slack. By 30, a lot of smart women acquire some decent skills and develop confidence. But keep it mind, if you do go for a smart chick, she won't put up with your bullshit, and remember, hell hath no fury!

 

[genkisan]

looking for quality women in bars is like fishing for prize-winning salmon in a toilet.


Fish in a toilet, you catch turds......

 

[de Toke-ville]

Hey KMK, thought I'd throw my as well.

First, IMO, most guys aren't ready or equipped to make a decision like who would make a suitable lifetime partner until they're at least 30. Yes, some people meet and get merried by an early age but the fact is that peeps that get married in their early twenties have about a 10% or less chance of still being together in 20 years.

But I feel your pain. lol. The saying "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" was never more relevant than when dealing with relationships. When you been single for a while and aren't meeting many women who qualify as "girlfriend material," the thought of having that serious relationship can seem pretty good. Still, the first advice I would give is patience. Take time to make your life the way you want it, to get to know many different women and to work out exactly what will work for you in the long run.

Next, sometimes the best way to attract something into your life is to be able to act like you don't want it that much. If you are "looking for a girlfriend," you're likely to come off as needy to women you meet. Neediness is the beginning of the end of attraction--true for both sexes in my experience. The more confident and happy you are as a single guy, the more you will attract women--and eventually quality women--into your life.

Still, wife material is very rare out there, in my book. And in the end quantity is quality. In other words, expand the venues where you meet girls, as others have already suggested--coffee shops, book stores and the good 'ol mall are the some of the best places. Make friends, date, seduce, repeat. Pretty soon, you'll have it down, most women you meet will be attracted to you, and just when you've created the perfect mac-daddy lifestyle and don't even want a girlfriend or a relationship anymore--that's when you meet the woman of your dreams--and she ruins everything!

-dTv

 

[KMK0420]

LOL this went from a thread about how the dating scene has changed to "Hey, lets all assume KMK can't get women and give him tips!!"

Seriously though, let me explain something. I don't have trouble getting women. What i am primarily looking for in life right now is a serious relationship - yeah, maybe not marriage or a wife, but something where i don't have to worry about her cheating, not being serious about it, etc. THATS whats rare these days.

Yes i know bars aren't somewhere you go for wifey material...but in my city, anyone in the age range of 21-30 do 2 things, primarily. Clubs, or bars. Some clubs can be just laid back with music, while some can be dance clubs with bars built in (Bar room, Matrix, Zen - a few around me) - the women there are insanely gorgeous, but nonetheless half retarded ho's.

I got my plan for now (single, kickin it) but was just curious if other guys in my age range have noticed the same thing - the downfall of the dating days and the rise of just fuck whoever you want days.

 

[barletta]

Not everyone 21-30 goes to the bars. That's what people are telling you. You seem to be looking for the kind of girl that would get tired of getting hit on at a bar/club (foxy, knows it, looking for more than a poledance), and probably goes out once a month, and even then, it's surrounded by chickenheads to insulate her. Go to culturally enriching places. School, museums, parks, art galleries. How hard is it to tell the pretty/stupid girl how pretty she is, and how you 'connect' with her? If you want something worthwhile, put in the work. If you go places that are of interest to you (and not just cause the DJ keeps playing that fatman scoop track), you will meet girls that have similar interests there. The club is there to attract horny people, not genuine people.

If all that is attracted to YOU is chickenheads, and 29y/o chickenheads (with their kids, looking fer a daddy), than it's probably something that YOU are exuding/putting out. It is possible, that you KNOW you don't want a steady GF/Wifey in your heart, and you subconsciously are attracting bad candidates. Been there.

If ALL of the women in your town are at the club on Friday night, go to a different town. Seriously.

EDIT - Dood, if you think it's fukk whoever you want NOW, remember that there was a time when there was no aids. Why go home to fukk? Rubber? Nah, right here, Honey...

There have always been freaky girls looking fer deek. There have always been guys willing to go places and give deek. Nothing has changed, except now you have to worry about wrapping up. NOTHING has changed.

I could go to the dog park RIGHT NOW with any one of my dogs, and find a chick that wants to bullshit about dogs, and pet mine, and get together later to do more petting (or NOT! ). I could also whore up, throw on the versace and the B.shermans, and go out tonight and find a girl (10 yrs younger/older whatever) that wants me to drip sweat off of my chin and on to her forehead/ass cheeks for an hour. It's about what I'm looking for.

 

[KMK0420]

i think you're right to an extent, and there are different places to look, but you are correct - my city sucks. full of sports fanatics and drunks. i want to leave so bad, but i dont have that kinda cash. CALI would be my goal at some point!

i attract so many diff types of women i can't generalize and say they're all moms or sluts. some aren't, but recently the one i had a decent chance with refused to date me because i smoke. before she found out, i was the "most amazing guy" blah blah blah. SHIT like that is what pisses me off and turns me off from going into the dating scene again, but i hear you all. different places. maybe i need to quit the clubs/concerts/bars and hitup museums. or something.

 

[barletta]

You will be glad you did. When chicks go from the slut gear to the frumpy sweatshirt, it's a shock. When they go from the frumpy sweatshirt to perfect mellons/waistline/ass/ankles/whatever it's an ear to ear smile like seeing a cola come in WAAAAY heavy. :wink:

EDIT - I'm not old enough to remember before aids, but the last REAL woman I was with was. Singers rule.

 

[iGro4Me]

this isn't really about me, it's more about the fact that the dating scene is as it is...at least in the eastern US..lol

Really though, that's the only real perspective you can come from. Everything is relative bro.

How can anyone in their 20s comment about a change in anything? You have not had a chance to experience one thing long enough to see the change.

As far as dating is concerned, that has been a problem for everyone since the beginning of time. We all have different clocks ticking at different times.

As for me, I wish I could have found women that just wanted to date. I have a great career and I am better than average looking. I find women want to go all the way to marriage at the onset. I am not 20 though.

If you meet partiers they are going to party. If you meet people that are goal oriented they will have a goal of getting you to quit partying. Again, it is all about timing.

If I could interject from my own experience in my 20's for a moment....

EVERYTHING was done with the purpose of getting short-term ass<insert your own timeline here>

I know it's cruel and there were no feelings hurt intentionally.....BUT, it was a huge game, and I like to win.

 

[pack a bowl]

the dating scene at this age is fucked b/c it revolves around drinking too much.

 

[KMK0420]

the dating scene at this age is fucked b/c it revolves around drinking too much.

so damn true.

now see, if we had POT clubs...or coffee shops...DAMN right i'd have a wife! or a steady girlfriend...LMAO

 

[pack a bowl]

amen. i can't say i know any girls who smoke as much as me / take it as seriously. i might know a few that smoke just as much (or more) than me sometimes but they usually are the "party" type and they just want to get fucked up, period. I don't get why its so hard to find these girls, any that are out there always have been in long relationships also.

 

[KMK0420]

amen. i can't say i know any girls who smoke as much as me / take it as seriously. i might know a few that smoke just as much (or more) than me sometimes but they usually are the "party" type and they just want to get fucked up, period. I don't get why its so hard to find these girls, any that are out there always have been in long relationships also.

oh, they're out there...just difficult to find. and a good majority of the time when you think you found a good candidate...it probably isn't.

those type of girls profile guys constantly - how much money does he make, is he good looking, does he "do drugs"...etc. they choose what benefits THEM a lot of the time...money, popularity, etc. and the ones that DONT do this as normally grabbed up out the single market quick as hell.

 

[Big D]

Yeah man fuck the bars...

Yeah man fuck the bars...

The Pool is where to find the best babes...

 

[Gypsy Nirvana]

Damn.....those big gals have blue feet.....must be all the pressure.

 

[Big D]

One of them is having my baby... can you guess which one...

 

[iGro4Me]

One of them is having my baby... can you guess which one...

I'm gonna guess the one in the green...seems like the one to her right is feeling the baby(s?) kicking......

 

[PazVerdeRadical]

that picture is disturbing...

 

[shifty]

Shit! I bet there's women reading this thread shaking their heads thinking WTF? You guys whine about that there are no decent women, yet you go to bars, hook up with whatever, then think they're hoes because they don't want anything to do with you after coitus? Talk about Madonna/Whore complexes!

Of course women are going to think 'what can this dude do for me?' They usually have the most to lose (or gain counting on your perspective)...they can get PREGNANT! It's more than likely that they can get stuck with a kid! They have a right to be choosy or nonchalant when it comes to their pussies!

And for all this talk about women being hoes! Believe it or not, chicks are more than just some cum receptacle! Some of them actually enjoy sex just for the sake of it! With feminism and all, why should a woman apologize for wanting sex? If a woman meets the following criteria, she has a chance (with me anyway):

1. Must be SMART! (no dumb bitches please! I don't care how HOT!)
2. Must have a job! (no freeloaders!)
3. No kids (exception for widows)
4. Must have some aesthetic appeal (hey looks do matter, but not the first priority!)
5. Be able to pay for a date once in a while (Hey, some women make more than I do! This is what feminism is all about!)
6.Must have a car (exception for metro area women who take public transportation)
7. Must not be excessively vain!(get the fuck over yourself!)

It would also help if you had women that were actually friends! Not chicks that you'd think you'd might hit it with on the rebound, I'm talking about women that you would hang out with, chill, have meaningful conversations with and get some wisdom from...kinda like surrogate sisters, aunts, moms, grannies...whatever...chicks you wouldn't think of fucking! (like in a good way!)

 

[SouthernGuerila]

I do meet better quality chicks out at the grocery store...

Would you like lamb skin or latex?