Poll: People suck, change outlook, just who you're hanging with...WTF is the prob?

[stoned teacher]

Hey all:
I'm finding myself in a situation where always chill normally happy me is getting pissed off at what I see as people's rudeness, selfishness, and lack of care of others.....I haven't vented or whined to friends yet cause what a drag....or become an a hole myself (yet), but

By the way, sorry if it sounds like childish crap...I'm an adult and kinda losing faith in good people

First off, and I don't say this to brag....I'm not always the coolest hipest guy, but I'm not rude to people, don't absorb them in me, and don't have expectations that people do much for me, not a know it all, and generally try to care for others especially when going through bad times....maybe I expect the same of others too much?............I've tried to look at myself as a cause to this but can't see it?

two good friends get significant others and won't bother returning my calls for two weeks, skip out on mutual sports team causing forfeit (not the biggest deal, but just no concern for the 8 others on the team who paid and showed up to have fun)

i can't walk out my door without my neighbor (who I go out of my way to be nice to, keep my yard nice for obvious reasons....) talking for 10 minutes....politics, how terrible schools are (cause i'm a teacher), whatever he feels like talking about....i can't go to my car without this guy absorbing me in him talking for 10 minutes straight......

I thought it would be nice to text a "buddy" who loves the jets about how cool it is they got farvre. Apparently the guy disagrees, which is fine, but he chose to return with a text pointing that i feel that way "in my inexperienced eyes"...

father has "you call me expectation"...WILL not call except on birthday...we have never been close, don't think he was the best in the world, but if I don't call him...nothing.....so I call him cause I feel like checking in and find he's coming in town in Sept...I choose to offer my place up for him to stay (no basement access and all is clean!) to save him some cash. "I appreciate that...thats real sweet. why don't you give me a call in late aug to make sure i'm definately coming up".....

guys, tis is just a small sample of the little crap I'm dealing with here seemingly daily...and it's making me pessimistic, depressed, wanting to withdraw from others cause they're constantly dissapointing me lately.......

What do you think?
Is it me, actually an asshole, somehow sending out bad vibe and i'm just getting it back?...
is it me, making too much of little stuff?...maybe depression or being an overly sensitive pussy? need an outlook change....
Is it the world...is everyone just selfish and I'm expecting too much
Is the "northeast" US a bunch of self absorbed fast moving a holes...consider moving to a kinder more laid back place?
Combination of the above?
Can't tell not knowing me.......

 

[southflorida]

imo...you are just going through a rough psychological time....just chill...it will pass and all will be more or less ok

but maybe you are an asshole....just kidding bro...and asshole wouldnt write a post like this

you sound like a good person...just having a rough period in your life...we all have them...I definately have had my share

 

[stoned teacher]

Thanks for the advice

I actually just read though my original post and it sounds pretty bad.....so I went and voted that I'm an overly sensitive pussy

 

[9Lives]

Maybe you are an oversensitive pussy..but you are also right that most people are assholes!

Few are rich, beautiful and generally good people. Most of the rest are just full of greed, envy, sexual frustration and they lack the manners not to vent out in public. The shit just shines through..and it is indeed a pity!

 

[confused]

"It is all water under the bridge."

Take a deep breath. Realize that none of the silliness matters. Don't get mad over people and things you cannot control.

I find myself needing to follow my own advice every day. In my mind, one of the greatest things is being pissed off/sad/hurt and having someone come up and say the exact wrong thing. Smile.

It makes the times when things are going well seem that much better.

 

[stoned teacher]

Thanks confused! That definately put a smile on my face and you're right.

And I love my Casey Jones by the way!!!!

 

[confused]

You put a smile on my face too. I'm going through some rougher than usual times, so this made me reevaluate how I was acting.

I take none of the thanks, instead I give credit to my late grandma. She was the one always saying, "Its just water under the bridge."

 

[NOKUY]

ha ha..u asked and youll get my opinion...tho i dont spit it much here anymore.

WHO CARES!

thats all...thats how i do shit, and really i dont care, just dont put yourself in the position where u owe anyone anything...and take care of #1 (thats you)....i dont care how people perceive me, or what anyone thinks of me, and i do what i want.

 

[cocktail frank]

people suck as a society.
just try to be the better person ST.
good things happen to good people.

 

[GET MO]

From an assholes perspective, Id say get over it. Just keep bein a good person but like Nokuy said dont owe nobody and take care of ya fuckin self. Do you. Im the type keep my distance from everybody, always down ta help somebody out, but its all buisness most the time, I dont expect no favors in return when I do do shit.

 

[Bubble Puppy]

I never realized how rude ,selfish ,and what assholes us americans were intil i left the United States and visited Asia.Man what a wake up call,sometimes it takes stepping out of your environment and into another for a different point of view,to reflect on your environment...

 

[stoned teacher]

I never realized how rude ,selfish ,and what assholes us americans were intil i left the United States and visited Asia.Man what a wake up call,sometimes it takes stepping out of your environment and into another for a different point of view,to reflect on your environment...

Why didn't you vote geographical problem? I've heard this point of view before, both about American and the Northeast area...


I'd love to live where the people are kind.....

 

[HuffAndPuff]

Cocktail Frank put it very well, and succinctly. He usually does.

Stoned Teacher-
Buddy, where the fuck were you when I was in school?! Based on what I'm hearing, I would've done much better with a teacher like you! Basically, it sounds like you are fed up with the fact that you can't get 'the other person' to work WITH you, whoever it may be. The frustration is exacerbated by the fact that you see yourself as someone who IS willing to work with others, and as one of the last possessors of human decency.

You're a teacher, right? The cynical part of me says that's for the summer vacation, but we all know that it's a noble pursuit. Teachers do what they do because some part of them intrinsically wants to help shape/better people's lives. Unfortunately, many of you guys wind up more jaded than cops! It's the disconnect between theory and practice... In theory, you're helping people educate themselves so they can become decent members of society. In reality, you're working in an underfunded bureaucracy, and nobody gives a shit about anything but covering their asses.

The bottom line is that, despite what we believe from time to time, there are plenty of good people left out there. This is going to sound cheesy, and potentially religious (which is funny...I'm agnostic) but it is all about forgiveness. Most people are so fucking retarded, they don't even know it. They are selfish, greedy, me-me-me people who wouldn't piss on your teeth if your gums were on fire. They basically can't help it. I can imagine it would be frustrating for a teacher to get to this... but some people? They will never learn.

You can be angry at people, and resent them because you do things the 'right' way, and spend way too much time and energy being angry/disappointed in humanity... or you can say, "Fuck it. These people can't even help it. I forgive them for their complete and total lack of respect/understanding for how a society works. They obviously have bigger problems they need to address." Works like a charm for me!

Bottom line? It doesn't matter what anybody else is doing; it should not change who YOU are. If you're a good guy, why change just because you're the last one left? So what, everyone else is an asshole? Who do you look in the eye, in the mirror, before you sleep at night? Not them. Focus on being a good person and wanting to be proud of your conduct, despite the roadblocks everyone else is going to try and put in front of you. The minute you treat others as they treat you, instead of as you want to be treated, is when the bad Karma starts to flow. Cynicism takes a lot out of a person.

Plan as a pessimist, expect as a realist, hope as an optimist.

Stay Safe,

HuffandPuff

[EDIT: I'm in the Northeast, but have lived all over the states, as well as abroad. It's universal- PEOPLE 'suck' everywhere (you're expecting too much) but INDIVIDUALS anywhere have the potential for greatness. If only it WERE a geography thing!]

 

[Irishslappop]

Without re-hashing [ha ha get it] what has already been said, this is my advice:

Be exactly who you are, don't worry so much about other people [especially ones you dont know or don't particularly like], and keep yourself happy/busy with things you love.

When i am able to follow those guidelines, im on top of the world. it's not easy to do 100% of the time, i reckon these "assholes" that are getting your goat are having a real tough time with those simple rules. When im having a tough time, it's always because my life has become more complicated, i've becoming angry with others, or im sitting around not doing any thing.

just keep on with what your doing and remember that if your genuine, you can do no evil. hope i helped.

 

[devilgoob]

I know what you mean, but I think you mean to say people are phoney and fake. They also abide by rules like: you must dress a certain way, you can't talk about anything intellectual - you must talk about other people, people who are more attractive than you are allowed to be assholes and also they can say the same joke that you say, but theirs will get laughs. Most people are like this, so I can see how it sucks for a person who isn't fake.

On the other hand, you may be a disagreeable person. I am disagreeable almost always and never really enjoy friends. My friends are weed, books, and the internet.....I find them more interesting than people.

 

[chuckyoufarley]

i worked in retail once and i found out PEOPLE SUCK but the store i worked at i could tell them that or i could simply say F you drag your ass and dont return and my boss was cool with that i saw him tell a customer(this is MY store customers arent always rite here ,so drag your ass)i never laughed so hard at the look on that persons face ,and i bet they were much nicer to the next retailers they went to

 

[tricky]

lifes a bitch but on the flip side ............. life can be a beach
hope you find your beach soon ... i'm still looking !

T.

 

[hunt4genetics]

I am a nice guy. I hear it all the time. When people call me a sweet or nice guy, they say it as if I have a contagious disease. I am trying to maintain my niceness, and not change. I do feel my life would be easier if I was a douche bag, but I will maintain.
I encourage you other nice guys to not cross over to the douche side. I have noticed an ever intensifying harshness in society. I feel we are a nation of self absorbed sociopaths. I think it is just an outcome of our wealth as a nation. Even the poorest person in America is well fed. We have homeless folks who are morbidly obese. We have so much, that we do not need each other. We are able to live in our own little worlds. There was once a time when we had a sense of community. A time when we were all in the same boat. Farmers helped out other farmers who had a crop failure, because they know how close it could have been them. Now we are 300 million strangers. it's the nature of the beast.

If I were to ask my next door neighbor, to borrow some sugar...


peace

 

[tngreen]

Plan as a pessimist, expect as a realist, hope as an optimist.

True words of wisdom right there.

 

[CheifnBud2]

Spend some time alone. Think about what people have/have not done. You decide what to do.