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"Unfinished business with the deceased ..." left me in a quandary when my Dad died. Strange man he was ... didn't talk much so we never got to exchange the important stuff.
Well, never knew it was important until he was gone and I found myself framing the question: "Why didn't you take charge?" Meaning why did you let Mum (She of the black heart) run the household?
So I went out into the middle of the paddock (field, pasture) around my house at the time and I asked Dad whyso in a very loud voice. He didn't answer of course (the Cosmos is often dumb, I 've found) but I suddenly felt better.
It seems the framing of the question ... which had entirely eluded me while he was alive ... is the most important action to ease away troublesome unfinished business ... not any answer.
So to reframe what I just wrote: getting it out whether anyone hears or not seems to be the important action to settle a circular nuisance internal dialogue.
Bye for now (the only trip I did to the Reef was not worth the much less than $6oo I paid. Hope you didn't waste yr money either).
Well, never knew it was important until he was gone and I found myself framing the question: "Why didn't you take charge?" Meaning why did you let Mum (She of the black heart) run the household?
So I went out into the middle of the paddock (field, pasture) around my house at the time and I asked Dad whyso in a very loud voice. He didn't answer of course (the Cosmos is often dumb, I 've found) but I suddenly felt better.
It seems the framing of the question ... which had entirely eluded me while he was alive ... is the most important action to ease away troublesome unfinished business ... not any answer.
So to reframe what I just wrote: getting it out whether anyone hears or not seems to be the important action to settle a circular nuisance internal dialogue.
Bye for now (the only trip I did to the Reef was not worth the much less than $6oo I paid. Hope you didn't waste yr money either).