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    Dealing with a Sexual Predator in the Industry?

    I'm really at a loss at what to do in my situation. I'm doing a financially lucrative consulting gig that I want to stick around for a while. It's for a farm with several huge medical rooms. Some employees are full time and some are temporary. The owner of the farm is a sexual predator with vulnerable women and all the employees know it.



    Nobody will speak up because they don't want to lose their job. If I am the one who says anything, he will just fill the spot with another employee, consultant or lady to harass. Something needs to be done, and snitching is never an option.



    Does anyone have any advice for what seems like a lose-lose situation?
    Last edited by BillFarthing; 07-11-2019, 22:16.
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    #2
    Originally posted by BillFarthing View Post
    Nobody will speak up because they don't want to lose their job. If I am the one who says anything, he will just fill the spot with another employee, consultant or lady to harass. Something needs to be done, and snitching is never an option.



    Does anyone have any advice for what seems like a lose-lose situation?
    It is not snitching to speak up. Are you afraid of losing your job?
    “The sun will eclipse soon unless you sacrifice the prince consort to the goddess of the moon.”
    Hans Bornefeld

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      #3
      OK so the employees ,"know it".
      If that's the case what do you want to do?
      I guess you could convince them to leave?

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        #4
        I should have asked what do you mean by sexual predator ? Does he hit on woman,or is he a rapist?
        In these days of metoo many people,probably have many definitions

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          #5
          Originally posted by NEW ENGLAND View Post
          I should have asked what do you mean by sexual predator ? Does he hit on woman,or is he a rapist?
          In these days of metoo many people,probably have many definitions

          I have seen overt verbal harassment, heard rumors about touching, nothing about rape. It's using a position of power or financial leverage to pursue these women that bothers me.
          "The hydroponics store is a rip off" -Bill Farthing

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          http://opensalts.wikidot.com/

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            #6
            nab the guy and take him to a nice quiet spot and let a bunch of chicks beat the snot out of him. Good idea to wear face and tatoo coverings while taking care of business.

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              #7
              Well if they are adults,and know what the deal is,then they have made their choice.
              Or if they are on the books they can resign,and file for unemployment,seek another job.
              I mean you could probably check into any motel 6 across the country,and see minors that are victims of worse.

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                #8
                We are different people, you and me.

                It would be my impulse to call him out as a predator. Name the Demon.

                But that will not stop his behaviour. Even if his Staff leave en masse (strike) he will employ others.

                The irony that I see is that the Perp is acting toward his victims out of a sense of insecurity. (He is like the Epstein fellow who acts out against very young women ... seemingly the weakest of women.) When your Perp acts-out his power he is motivated by Powerlessness! AND when you write about the issue here, you too are motivated by Powerlessness!

                I think there is nothing that you can do about this situation. It is a subjective circumstance which you must become used to. It is all around!

                Power in relationship is timeless. Women use their power over men. Men use their power over women.

                I think a relevant question is: What is making you sensitive to the power/powerlessness of Others?

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                  #9
                  Originally posted by mr underhill View Post
                  nab the guy and take him to a nice quiet spot and let a bunch of chicks beat the snot out of him. Good idea to wear face and tatoo coverings while taking care of business.
                  Nah,somethings have to be done alone,never ever leave a witness.Not condoning violence of course,just saying I wouldnt even tell my wife if I ever did something.
                  At least she would pass a polygraph,and not be implcated.Thats true love.

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                    #10
                    Is the pay worth selling your soul? Every man has a price... what’s your’s?
                    #CannavoreDoesntDeserveBanhamm er

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                        #12
                        Originally posted by 'Boogieman' View Post
                        Only one way a sexual predator gets what's deserved, pay some gang bangers to cut off his cock with bolt cutters, but you can't cut the whole thing off because if you don't tie it up he will bleed out. Then go to work the next day like nothing happened.
                        Nope,like I said something's have to be done alone.
                        Leaving even one witness,leaves the possibility of testimony.My friend just got 60 years for taking care of business.He was totally legit in a legal state,and got taken for 30 units and 10k in cash.One of the guys that helped him out with the disposal(scarface showerscene).
                        Turned states evidence.SIXTY YEARS....
                        Alone or live with it,and walk away.

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                          #13
                          Nothing you can do but quit. It's called integrity. Where you gonna draw the line? Second, it's up to the women to deal with the harassment - plenty of ways to do that these days. A good percentage of women will resent having a man step in to "protect them" from a creep. Guarantee the guy already knows he's a slug. It's not like things will change if you have a chat. The "you keep working there and perv knocks it off" scenario isn't going to happen.

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                            #14
                            We dealt with allegations like that. But it took other employees and owners to cooperate. They hired a third party investigator who interviewed everyone in the company. I believe he stepped down as CFO after that. His thing was sexual favors for promotions. Your guy just sounds like he's doing it to do it. Get other people on the board to talk to you and convince them to take action.
                            Tell the people you love that you love them.

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                              #15
                              Lots of options if this is a publicly traded company. If it is, you can get him out - maybe should get him out, depending on your role. Then you COULD still work there, but not him. Is this a case of you and a bunch of other employees noticing or being directly impacted by this behavior and discussing it and wanting to make changes or is this you seeing things, not liking them and considering taking action on your own?

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